Nome's Ranting Spot

goldengray:

dirtyxygirl:

You are not less queer, just less interesting to me.

As a side note, I’ve understood bisexual monogamy.  Granted, I can’t relate to monogamy in general at this point, but specifically in regards to bisexuals, I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life unless it’s really not that big of a part of your sexuality.  I have an even harder time relating to monogamous straight partners of bisexuals who can ask them to give that up without feeling like a tremendous shithead.

I mean, think about it.  The person above said they have no doubt they’ll spend the rest of their life with someone of the opposite sex.  If they’re monogamous, that means that getting together with their opposite sex life partner will mean the end of them enjoying sex with anyone of the same sex as them.  Forever.  For a bisexual female, wouldn’t that essentially put you in the position of saying, “Wow, I love girls so much!  Can’t wait to meet a great boy and then never fuck a girl again!”

That just seems weird and sad to me, but again, I don’t really understand monogamy.  My life partner is sleeping a few feet from me, and I can still fuck and love whomever I want, and so can she.

I think you’re getting your aversion to monogamy in general mixed into it. “I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life” is not, to me, substantially different from saying to a monosexual monogamous person “I have a hard time seeing how you can pick one member of a gender and give up everyone else of that gender for the rest of your life.” It might sound odd, but that’s just how monogamous people function….

Granted, I’ve only been with women (actually, one woman) at this point in my life, so maybe I don’t appreciate the differences that people of other genders bring to the table. I can’t imagine that the differences between people of various genders are much greater than the differences between individual people, though.

In response to dirtyxygirl:

If someone ripped on your sexuality, how would you react? You’d be angry as fuck. Rightfully so. So where do you feel you have the right to police someone else’s relationships? Monogamy is bad when it’s forced on you. It’s bad when society only respects the right to be with one person. It’s bad when poly folks are painted as sluts who can’t have “real” relationships.

Wanna know when monogamy isn’t the most evil thing ever? When it’s what makes someone feel good.

Hint: Not everyone has the same sexuality as you.

Hint: Mine isn’t. I’m not all that poly. I love one person intensely and do not want and don’t see how I could do that with more than one person at a time. And don’t even try to say this makes me a bad person. Privileged? Yes. But brainwashed, judgmental, prudish or foolish? Fuck no because my relationships are intense and wonderful and exactly how I want them.

And I’m sick of hearing that shit. Add on the fact that half the time the person throws in something about how people should be super-sexual, therefore invalidating ace folks (like myself) and I’m left pessed as hell.